“Real maturity is staying aligned with who you are whether people get you or not, agree with you or not.
It's nervous system literacy: knowing your own states, not confusing or excusing your responses because of what is going on outside yourself.”
You've spent years reading the room. Adjusting your voice, your reactions, your needs, so you'd be easier to be around. Some of that became armor. Some of it buried the parts of you that were never a problem to begin with, just too much, too sensitive, too different for the room you were in.
This session is 90 minutes to sort that out, together. We'll go through your patterns, beliefs, and responses one at a time and ask: is this essentially you, or is this something you adopted to survive a room that didn't fit? You'll leave with a clearer map of what to keep (including the eccentricities you've been tucking away) and what you're ready to set down.
What we'll do & HOW we'll do it
Identify what's actually going on
We'll look at the specific behaviors, beliefs, and reactions that show up most often, without judgment. This isn't as straight forward as it may sound. You know this. If you could easily figure out what's going on, you likely wouldn't feel the frustration or shame or confusion of your own state.
Sort what is you & what is no longer you
For each one: essential you, or adopted armor? We untangle it from it's past, from it's intended but outdated purpose, from what you have maybe accepted is wired in - but isn't. And find the parts of you that are indeed fixed as they are.
Choose how to rearrange you, for the win!
You leave with a clear, personal list of what to keep and what to release, plus a way to keep telling the difference on your own.
Who this is for
It's for the person who knows who she is, but still gets rattled. She feels out of balance, ungrounded. She's a beautiful, hot mess sometimes. Whether she ever lets it show or even knows it or not (I hope you do!)
It's probably for you.
People who are sensitive, neurodivergent, or just tired of masking to be acceptable. If you've built a persona to get through the day and you're not sure anymore what's actually yours underneath it, this is for you.
Give yourself the opportunity to try!
About Tara
Tara Kanerva
Performance & Transformation Coach.
I've recently started to specialize in working with people who are (or suspect they are) ADHD prone and want to do something about it. I say it like that because I am intimately aware of how coaching can make all the difference - good or bad - to someone who has an ADHD kind of a brain. It's the ultimate cursed and blessed.
I've been coaching for over 12 years and have a busy practice. My bio is here. Come do a free consult and meet me. It's easy.
Just click here. Bam. Done.
